Today I’m happy to welcome Dee Tenorio to my humble little World of Romance. Make sure to answer her question at the end of the post for a chance to win a copy SHAKEN, her awesome and heartbreaking novella, that came out October 19th! My review of SHAKEN can be found HERE
Many Shades of Love
I’ve had a lot of time to think about love over the years of my writing. Love is supposed to be my topic of expertise, but you know, it’s not as simple as studying a topic and knowing all the right answers. At any point of my life, I thought I knew what love was. Thought I understood it, only to discover that what I knew wasn’t complete. Love changes.
When you’re young and have yet to truly learn the value of anything, love is so easy to feel and understand. You love mommy and daddy and brother and sister and puppy and kitty and teacher and friends… The list is unending because if it makes you happy, it’s love. And that isn’t wrong.
Get a little older and love gets a little more complicated. There’s different kinds now. Some like roots that are just a part of you. Some that are new and exciting. You find out that what you love, you might not always get. Love isn’t always fair. Sometimes, even if you do get it, it’s not going to stay. Love can hurt and those first, wrenching slices of loss can cut deep. While memorable, you also discover that you can recover. Learn from it. And that’s not wrong either.
When you’re grown, love can be consuming. Blinding. Destructive. It can be exhilirating and fulfilling. It can give you a connection and ground you when your life is upside down or up in the clouds. You’ve learned what it is to love deeply and give a part of yourself away, fully accepting that the part you give isn’t coming back. But new parts come along to take it’s place. Love from others—the ones you choose and the ones who choose you. And sometimes, the hardest lessons are how to recover when the pieces of our hearts are taken away.
I always thought of love as a feeling. An emotion or a connection only. But it continually surprises me. Love is all those things, but it’s also a comfort. A choice. A gift. A joy. Love is what’s left when we’re gone. What gives us a reason to keep going when we’re here.
I know that in my field, I’m supposed to have answers or insight, but the truth is…I’m still learning. I’m still figuring out the ways that love grows and changes. I’m still trying to understand how it scars and heals, how it makes a better person out of me.
So take a moment to help me learn. Tell me how love has made your life better and I’ll enter you into a drawing to win a free copy of my latest novella, “Shaken”.
Hope to hear from you,
Dee Tenorio has a few reality issues. After much therapy for the problem—if one can call being awakened in the night by visions of hot able-bodied men a problem—she has proved incurable. It turns out she enjoys tormenting herself by writing sizzling, steamy romances of various genres spanning paranormal mystery dramas, contemporaries and romantic comedies. Preferably starring the sexy, somewhat grumpy heroes described above and smart-mouthed heroines who have much better hair than she does.
The best part is, no more therapy bills!
Well, not for Dee, anyway. Her husband and kids, on the other hand…
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